This paper is based upon the author’s understanding of the dynamics, or “dance”, of diversity as they arise in “helping” relationships. It takes in psychological, social and transpersonal aspects of diversity. It is offered not as an authoritative statement, but as “thought-provocation” to coaches and mentors trying to understand, and work effectively with, diversity in their relationships with clients. The main body of the paper consists of an exploration of the intra- and inter-personal dance of diversity. The paper employs concepts of denial and projection, informed by social perspective and enriched by a transpersonal dimension, as tools for the practical analysis and competent handling of these “dances” of diversity. Finally, the paper outlines the author’s approach to “dancing with diversity”: “deep equality”, which lies at the heart of her work with diversity in coaching relationships.